3 Tips to Self-Love and Being Mindful

During this week of hearts and love, shower a little more loving acceptance on YOU!  It’s often easier to be kind and gentle toward someone else than ourselves. Here are a few mindful tips that may help with self-love and self-acceptance.

1. Allow Love IN!

Be willing to pause and allow love in!  That’s the true meaning of mindfulness…being aware of a loving presence and being in the NOW of the present moment.  That’s why a brief pause into stillness, a little deep breathing, or even a short meditation can lift your spirit.

What does it mean to let love in and love yourself? It means loving your history and the messes. Loving ourselves means experiencing our feelings just as they are and also accepting what is without resistance—because as they say,  “What we resist… persists.”

Even if we do not like our current situation, let love in.  Maybe our health is suffering, or there’s an addiction, or financial struggles.  We still need to let love in so we may move beyond the hurt and pain.  Staying stuck in negativity will prevent more helpful solutions from breaking through.  It means pausing enough to trust that the right answers will come.  Try pausing in stillness and asking yourself, what would “Love” have me do? My Guided Imagery  meditations feature opening more to love, so enjoy 20% off any MP3 downloads through February 28th.  (Use coupon code love2018.)

2.  Let go of judging Yourself

You have spent too long trying to measure up to an unrealistic ideal of who you think you should be.  When really, you just have to say to yourself,  “ I’m doing the best that I can.” Then, accept that you are doing your best.   it is time to release all judgements.

What does that mean?  It is now time to see yourself as the brilliant person your truly are!  For you are special and unique.   It is now time for you to realize that you are loved unconditionally.  You deserve to be loved for exactly who you are.   You do not need to do anything to feel this love.

3. Honor Your Feelings–both the Good and the Bad

Welcome your feelings.   We need to find a way to be with feelings and let them go.  Emotions such as grief allow us to release pain so that we may move forward in our lives. Other feelings may be more unclear, such as tightness in our stomach or around our chest. As we bring an attitude of gentleness toward it, and sit with the feeling with compassion, we may open more to understanding and our true needs.

Feelings often contain wise messages. If we can cultivate a warm and friendly attitude toward our feelings, they’re more likely to become allies on our journey. New insights open up and our lives move forward in a more fulfilling way.

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To sum up, be willing to pause and let love in!  Then, allow in compassion for yourself and for those areas of your life that you are still seeking to change.  This is true self-love.  When we come from love, we can better uplift ourselves and our world!

 

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Help Children’s Sleep Problems

Our wired, fast-paced world may be affecting our children’s sleep.  Their minds and bodies crave sleep to grow and develop, so we need to help our children receive more sleep.   In following hundreds of Preschool children and their sleep patterns, scientists at Northwestern University have discovered much more aggression in those kids who sleep less at night. The study concludes less sleep leads to more behavioral problems by day.

Older children have sleep issues, too.  A National Sleep Foundation poll finds that two-thirds of children under the age of 10 have experienced sleep problems at night.  Many children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder also find more sleep problems.  And research shows lack of sleep may worsen the child’s lack of focus and hyperactivity by day.

We as parents and caregivers can help establish healthy sleep habits.  Make sure our children are receiving the 10 to 11 hours of sleep recommended by pediatricians, including naps.   Doctors at the Cleveland Clinic recommend establishing a regular calming ritual to help children fall into healthy sleep patterns.  Make sure the bedroom or at Daycare is quiet, calm, and comfortable. Keep the room dark, if possible, except for a night light. An hour or more before bedtime, turn off computer games and electronics.  As adults, avoid arguing or provoking issues right before bed.  A relaxed home does make a difference.

Teach children how to relax with deep breathing and positive imagery while lying in bed.  Help them visualize the rays of the warm sun, or the sound of ocean waves soothing them, while doing abdominal breathing.  Guided Imagery helps them calm down for relaxation and sleep.

We offer a solution at Heart Talk Now called Sleepytime Dreams.  Pilot programs at Preschools and Daycare prove it to be quite effective in making bedtime or nap time stress free for young children.  Let the Dream Fairy gently help your children fall asleep feeling loved, safe, and protected.

 

Wishing you Peace!

Vicki